rethinking, again

I'm so damned inconsistent and indecisive.
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Rather than eat all my calories at one time during the day, thus expanding my stomach and having an expectation for a large meal every day, would it not be better to eat 2 to 4 times, with 1/2-1/4 the amount?  Then having a "shrunken stomach" faster?  Am I making sense?
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New Meal Plan (350 calories per day)

• 9:00AM -half-recipe oatmeal (elaborated at bottom) - 100, coffee
• 1:00PM -1 ounce neufchatel (75), 1 slice toasted wholegrain bread (75) - 150
• 5:00PM - 1/3 cup wild rice, curried lentils to make total 1/2 cup, coffee - 100 

• SUBSTITUTE FOR ANY MEAL: 1/2 lemon Larabar - 110
• If satisfied at any point during a meal, drink the coffee, take one more bite, and dump it!

Shopping list for 2 weeks:

• 1+ cups dry red lentils
• 2.5 cups dry wild/forbidden rice
• red curry, hot curry, and yellow curry
• almond milk
• "butter"
• coffee
• fat-free creamer (optional)
• lemon Larabars (optional)
• 14 slices wholegrain bread
• 14 ounces neufchatel
• some steel cut oats
• some unsweet dried cranberries
• some 0% greek yogurt

So.  There's this fabulous blog (no longer updated sadly) that the author posted pictures of her breakfast every day.  And almost every day it was a beautiful-looking oatmeal of some sort or another.  Pics are via google.com.  And it made me want to make oatmeal myself.  So 1/2 of this 185-calorie "recipe" will be my breakfast, so roughly 100 calories.

• 1/3 cup cooked oats (50)
• 1/3 cup 0% greek yogurt (45)
• 1/4 cup dried cranberries (30)
• 1 tablespoon flaxseed (30)
• small bit nut butter (30)

In addition, I planted yesterday a ton of tomatoes, some raspberries, squash, corn, cauliflower, and cantaloupe.  If/when these grow properly, I will incorporate what I get into my meal plan gladly!  There's something about growing your own food that even an eating-disordered girl can appreciate. :)